Factors that could positively affect the growth and development of your kids
Every parent’s goal is to raise good, well-adjusted kids. While there isn’t a clear-cut recipe for good parenting, there are general factors that could positively affect their development. Here are a few tips.
Take Care of Yourself
Your health and well-being should be one of your top priorities. Parents, especially mothers, sometimes neglect self-care because they think it is selfish. Your health, and that of your children, depends on it. A burnt out or stressed parent cannot raise successful and happy children. Besides, children mimic their parents’ behaviour when they later become adults themselves; if you don’t take care of yourself, your child may subconsciously follow the same route in adulthood. Get ample sleep, exercise and eat healthy meals. Carve out time to pursue the things you love. A relaxing activity like reading or having a long, warm bath isn’t such a bad idea.
Establish Routines and Rituals
Routines create familiarity and reinforce rules and schedules. If you want bedtime and mealtime to be less of a fuss, create daily schedules for activities such as chores. That will help the kids switch from one activity to another without tantrums because they know what to expect every day. Make rituals fun, something your child will look forward to. For example, come up with a bedtime lullaby together for a fun (and calm) way to get them to sleep.
Read To Them
You’ll be raising book smart kids and at the same time empowering them with important social skills such as empathy. According to a statement by the American Academy of Paediatrics, reading to children from an early age–as early as infancy–doesn’t only improve their literacy skills and foster parent-child bonding, but also builds their social-emotional skills.
Reinforce Good Behavior
You can reinforce good behaviour in your children by praising them whenever they do something good. Human beings are wired for appreciation, and what gets appreciated is likely to get repeated. Make the positive feedback frequent. Also, remember to first set a good example. They mostly look up to you on how to behave.
Listen To Them
Active listening is important especially when they are teenagers. We know mummy knows best, but listening to their concerns while discounting their feelings or lecturing them will only make them feel unappreciated and lead to rebellion (if you don’t listen to them, what makes you think they’ll listen to you?)